Although this stream flows contrary to popular opinion, God has entrusted for this fleeting life the man with the ‘Spiritual Headship’ of his family, home and Church, and a women should not think to usurp that position. No this doesn’t mean that a man can’t work for a woman or that a woman should be shackled to the kitchen sink, as Satan would have you believe. Yet like it or not the man has been, as was Nebuchadnezzar to an ancient World, set as a tree under which his family should receive their sustenance, shelter and spiritual protection.
Now if that tree should stretch-out its bows to cover a stranger, that his roots be turned to draw from another man’s well, then she who had trusted him shall sit beneath his naked branches, awaiting her fate as battered wings try desperately to protect her young from the putrid fruit falling from above, and more so the sight of carrion swooping down upon withering leaves [Proverbs 27:8]. Damn infidelity and damn the adulterer who refuses to turn from their ways!
“Their houses shall be turned over to others,
Their fields and their wives together”
Yet God will not turn away from the cry of the righteous, but set her to tend another tree worthily of her affections, who rising early shall nourish and lavish a love upon him proven by deeds and not just empty words as some. Who shall laugh at the roaring of the sun, as his leaves swollen by her sap turn as one to meet its blast, which rather than destroy shall be bent to strengthening his branches, that they might bare the weight of a harvest to come.
And her children also shall laugh and skip under his shadow, as great flocks of carrion rise with the sun afar off, to pick at the bones of fools.
For the whorish women’s sun bleach bones shall lay for an ensign besides the blackened stump of her neglect, that others should not do so foolishly. For the flesh of those joined together in marriage is the carrions delight, who shall not be driven back by love established upon the sifting sand of ‘feelings’ that inch and move, but rather can by no means advance against that which hangs as a jewel from an obedient ear, committed to God. For rising early and fulfilling her duties, a mere glance of her stout countenances drives away the whore, devil and carrion bird who dare not so much as to glance her way... for her God is with her who shall not suffer her to be afflicted at the hands of the wicked.
So there it stands in a parched land, a mighty tree rising with its rich a green foliage over the yellow sands that long to beat it back. But rather grassy knolls, fields and workers gather about its mighty trunk, that they too through willing servitude might find their sustenance and rest in its shadow. How blessed then the man who putting his shoulder to the work, finds a virtuous women to strength, support and love the tree of her blessing.
“He’s making it up as he does along!”
Well the truth is I didn’t actually intend writing the above, but rather an article relating to the ‘The First-born son’ which is very interesting indeed. Yet having finished my morning reading, read as is my habit the proverb for the day [The date for a chapter,] which finishing decided to write a ‘quick blog’ before commencing with the previously mentioned study. Four hours later, eyes red-rimmed, papers and notes all over the floor I finished my hundredth revision to lifted-up my head and think “How did that happen?”
How right the saying...
‘Although we make our plans, God directs the heart’...
The mind of man plans his way,
But the Lord directs his steps.
Many plans are in a man’s heart,
But the counsel of the Lord will stand.
Many Christians can testify, that the more Scripture you know the more harder it is to read scripture, I have a friend who can rarely read one paragraph before the holy Ghost as Jesus promised, jumps-up and brings into remembrance those things which Jesus has taught us.
But the Helper, the Holy Spirit, whom the Father will send in My name, He will teach you all things, and bring to your remembrance all that I said to you.
Being the twelfth of April, I hadn’t read the first four verses of Proverbs 12 before everything came to a screeching halt. Although I quote the ‘New American Standard Version’ for my reader’s ease... and because it is a very good translation, having become accustom to the King James I find I am unable to move to another, which reads as...
1 - Whoso loveth instruction loveth knowledge: but he that hateth reproof is brutish.
2 - A good man obtaineth favour of the Lord: but a man of wicked devices will he condemn.
3 - A man shall not be established by wickedness: but the root of the righteous shall not be moved.
4 - A virtuous woman is a crown to her husband: but she that maketh ashamed is as rottenness in his bones.
The first three verses make it blatantly clear that a man shall receive a reward for his deeds, wickedness for evil and a blessing for right, and with verse 4 introducing a wife onto the stage, I’m sure you understand where I got the idea that a man seeking a wife will receive one fitting his behaviour!
Behold, the righteous shall be recompensed in the earth:
much more the wicked and the sinner.
But the reader of the King James would have instantly been reminded of the ‘virtuous women’ mentioned in Proverbs 31:10-31, when reading verse 4 of Proverbs 12 quoted above, which begins with the question...
Who can find a virtuous woman?
for her price is far above rubies.
Well we know who can right?
God can find one for the righteous!
The wife of a wise and righteous man [Prov 12:26] shall certainly bless, but woe to the wicked whom God gives a wife, for she is more than able to bring his house down upon his head, how ever mighty it may be.
Every wise woman builds her house, but the foolish plucks it down with her own hands.
Yet in a money oriented world, I must add that this isn’t always about money...
A constant dripping on a day of steady rain and a contentious woman are alike;
It is better to live in a corner of the roof than in a house shared with a contentious woman.
Because, the poor are often more blessed in their poverty than the rich in their riches...
Better is a dish of vegetables where love is, than a fattened ox served with hatred.
Therefore peace, love and joy are not reliant upon wealth, but both the rich and poor are blessed together where the fear of the Lord keeps them from their sin.
I was long ago asked to pick-up a man on the way to Church who wanted, I was told to seek God. Soon, as we travelled my anger was kindled by his constant enquiries regarding the women in the Church, admonishing him with the words that “we are going to seek God, not women” and that “if he wash’t careful God might give him what he wanted”.
Within minutes of walking in his eyes locked with a female member, who sitting together conversed constantly, exchanging telephone numbers before we left. The very next week he wouldn’t so much as open the door to me, but speaking through it slightly ajar, told me ‘not to return and that he wasn’t interested in going to church again’.
The mouth of an adulteress is a deep pit;
He who is cursed of the Lord will fall into it.
I don’t exactly know what happened, but can only guess that God gave him more than he bargained for, even a women worthy of his deeds and thoughts.
But I hear some cry...
“But I know a righteous man whose wife is a monster, or a righteous women whose so called Christian husband messes around” etc...
I get what you are saying, but it takes wisdom and I would say a knowledge of the scriptures to fully comprehend that if God doesn’t take away the righteous from the wicked, I say God not Man, that He can and does use the wicked to refine the righteous... for above all salvation it the ultimate goal.
Yet we must also acknowledge that a righteous man can turn from his righteousness after he has been married, and likewise righteous women too. But the end of all this is that both should turn back to God with all of their heart and fear Him, for although a trouble free life is not guaranteed in a World full of sin, Satan and fallen flesh... the end will be glorious for those learn to fear and obey the Lord...
For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, says the LORD, thoughts of peace, and not of evil, to give you an expected end.
...as for the unrepentant who thrive in their unrighteousness, their calamity shall come suddenly, and none shall be able to help them.
And let us remember the lesson given in the book of Job, for we do not fight against flesh and blood, but unseen battles rage overhead, and if God allows a righteous man to suffer, for God proves the righteous...
The Lord tests the righteous and the wicked,
And the one who loves violence His soul hates.
...it is to offer us the opportunity of attaining the blessing if we faint not, for indeed there is a reward for the overcomer, of that we can be sure. Job suffered loss, ill health and humiliation but the tender mercies of God were multiplied in the end, who refused to forsake God though he tried him sore.
The refining pot is for silver and the furnace for gold,
But the Lord tests hearts.
Yet my advice for the women seeking a husband is this, that if you are going to be picky be picky about this, that the man you join yourself to as one flesh, not only knows God but fears Him. And for the man seeking a wife, that she having been sanctified from the values of this World... is not only willing to recognise your headship, but demands you honour it! Always remembering that as Christ lay down His life for His Bride as an example for us to follow, so the husband has been commanded to love his wife as Christ loved the Church.
Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself up for her.
If anything I have said has touched your heart, understand this, that yes redoubling your efforts will have an effect, but nothing will bless you or heal your marriage as delighting in the Lord, for it is written that He will give you the desires of your heart [Psalm 37:4 ]. And above all set your heart to ‘know and obey Him’, for His yoke is indeed light and blessed are they who take it upon willing shoulders.
“But let him who boasts boast of this, that he understands and knows Me, that I am the Lord who exercises lovingkindness, justice and righteousness on earth; for I delight in these things,” declares the Lord.